Speak Thinking: GRIEFS, ITS EFFECT

Speak Thinking: GRIEFS, ITS EFFECT: Grief is an uncomfortable feeling, a pain, distress, a hurt, sometimes a scar from the past. It is different from a physical wound becau...

GRIEFS, ITS EFFECT

Grief is an uncomfortable feeling, a pain, distress, a hurt, sometimes a scar from the past. It is different from a physical wound because it can’t be seen, but if you can picture an injury and how it looks, that is the same effect grief has on the mind of anyone plagued with such feelings. It is an invincible injury.

 Its impact on anyone is more important than the impact of a physical wound because the medication for it to heal is intangible and it requires discipline than any physical wound. It can’t be seen yet everyone carries one form of grief or another everywhere they go. Of course it reflects on the faces, words and actions of the carriers but in most cases they are not aware or conscious of the effect it has in them.

Grief takes a process and grows in two distinct directions. It can either grow up or grow down. That means it can either be beneficial or dangerous. It can either be Godly or worldly. When growing upwards, it grows faster receiving freshness and light making it better just like a plant, however when growing downwards it clouds the carrier, getting them trapped in the dark.

Godly grief is from God. It is meant to last only for a little while and to help the carrier go and grow through a process. It is permitted by God to happen to produce a better result in the person. This process starts from repentance: accepting one’s mistake and being remorseful about it. It leads to salvation, then to deliverance from evil. At this point, the person is not plagued by past mistakes and can enjoy liberty and joy for the future. With no regret because all the past is wiped away, only thanksgiving and a new dimension/perspective to life is birthed in the person.

But worldly grief is from the world, caused as a result of worldly cares. It also goes through a process and it is a long one leading astray. It lasts forever. 

  When it comes, it leads to helplessness/sorrow; a feeling of loss and hopelessness, a feeling like no one cares and because of the loss there is no more hope in life. This leads to guilt and guilt is a self condemning situation; where the carrier condemns and feels guilty for him/herself. After a long while, this leads to depression, a sorry state for oneself and then regrets for actions and decisions made. If not helped, it leads to suicidal tendencies; the carrier begins to think of taking his/her life and then ultimately death. Sometimes this process can take a short time; depending on how grievous the situation is or the carrier’s temperaments/personality.

Worldly grief obviously and ultimately leads to death and it is one of the major challenges we have in the world Inspite of economic development. Since we all have our own grief levels, we need to watch out for ourselves and loved ones. One major way of not falling into worldly grief is to have a habit of confession. When you have done wrong or made a mistake open up and quickly tell someone who can help you so you can come out of it.

What traps majority of people into grief and guilt is the art of “sealed –lips”. I know in our part of the world we are very judgmental and hypocritical; if a friend opens up to another friend of certain mistakes maybe stealing, fornication or adultery, the friend perceives him as a bad person and makes himself holy and righteous when he is even doing worse things. This is part of the reasons why people keep quiet in their mistakes and it only gets worse. Change does not happen on its own, it is done by conscious and deliberate effort and that is why it is difficult to change.

However, we can’t afford to become slaves to our weaknesses/mistakes, we have to change and make them strengths. We need to forgive ourselves of our own past, open up and help others too by being truthful of our own mistakes and showing them how to overcome it.

From the growing process of Godly and worldly grief, Godly grief shows and teaches us genuine love, openness, forgiving one another, tolerance and accommodation for others and oneself. This will lead to a better and sane society where we will act towards one another with a genuine heart. Worldly grief only grows from one level of pain and sorrow to another. It teaches us nothing, it only leads to bitterness, regret and death. It does not benefit us in our society in anyway.

Keeping away from worldly grief is the best and the best way is to first be a good listener to others and ensure you are not judgmental towards them. Then gradually seek those around you and find someone who would listen and not judge you but will be genuinely interested in helping you become better. With this done, we will flow in the direction of Godly grief, love one another genuinely and the result will be a better society for us all.

Thank you for reading.Have JOYFULL week.

Ciao.

What is your Thought-album like?

Hello my friends,

Have you ever given it a thought how what you think would look like in pictures? Have you ever wondered how your” thought-album” would be? We all think, yes we do!  But are they good thoughts or bad thoughts? Besides if we look at our life now, where we are is the product of our thoughts. That means we are living life flipping through the pages of our thought-album.

We as humans are creators just like God our creator. He showed us how to create because he created first in his thoughts the heavens and earth before he started working them out. That is also the same way he created us: he packaged all we will ever be, what he wants us to be, the purpose we are to fulfill and knitted us together in seclusion then he brought us out to the open to exhibit his creative works on earth.

That is the same way God wants us to create. He has put in us the capacity to create just like him; first in our thoughts then with our hands. He equipped us with a tool called Imagination so we can create in our thoughts (in seclusion where no one knows and sees) and then bring them out for others to benefit from it.

This powerful tool can’t be limited by time or place, it can be used to dream big, create and recreate new things, travel anywhere and have dominion on this earth that has been given to us by God. Thus, whatever it is used for or concentrated on is what it will produce.

Therefore my friends, what sort of image do you have in your mind right now? Is it a winning image or a failure image? What you see is what you will become, what you see within is what you will create with your hands.

If you want any area of your life to have a unique turnaround, then see something different from what you have always seen. Regardless of your physical circumstances, once you change what comes from within, the outside will adjust to it.

What is your thought album like?

The powerful thing about your imagination is that for as long as you allow God to help you picture great things(because I know my God will never think evil because there is no evil in him), then you can be sure to have great dreams not just in thoughts but also in your hands.

So my friends, open a new album today, start using all that you have within to think all the good you can and even more, don’t let past failure or achievements hold you from creating a new and better future for yourself. For as long as your pictures are great, your future is, no matter the challenges you face.

As we have started a new year and already in a new month forget the past, forge ahead, create a new thought-album and see how your barns will be filled with good, great and awesome things.

Do have a Great-Thinking Week

Ciao.